You’ve Bounced Back — But Your Body Hasn’t: What Stress Leaves Behind After Recovery

You’ve done the hard part — now your body needs to feel safe enough to stop bracing

You’re officially fine. The bones have mended. The treatment’s done. You’ve been discharged.

But you still feel shaky. Unsettled. Like you could burst into tears at the smallest thing.

This is the part no one prepared you for.

Welcome to the recovery gap — the confusing middle ground between being medically signed off and actually feeling like yourself again. It’s where grief, fatigue, and fear linger quietly. It’s also where many women get told they’re fine... when they know they’re not.

The Nervous System Doesn’t Read Discharge Notes

Recovery doesn’t end with a hospital letter. Your nervous system — the network constantly scanning for threat and safety — takes longer to catch up.

You might be stuck in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn long after the danger has passed. You might feel:

• Tense, braced, or quick to flinch

• Numb, disconnected, or flat

• Anxious or tearful without knowing why

  
  

These are not weaknesses. They’re signs your body is still trying to protect you.

As Deb Dana puts it, *"The autonomic nervous system responds to the story the body tells, not the one we tell ourselves."

Up to 80% of GP visits in the UK are related to stress (Mental Health Foundation, 2021).

Why Women Feel It More Deeply

Many of the women I work with are holding multiple identities: mother, carer, leader, partner. Layer on menopause, invisible labour, and past trauma — and recovery becomes more than physical. It’s emotional. Existential.

Many women don’t bounce back — they land slowly, in layers. This is the space no one warns you about

• Oestrogen fluctuations affect cortisol and stress resilience

• Women often internalise discomfort to “stay strong”

• Many feel like they’re not allowed to stop — even when they’re falling apart inside

  
  

You might be grieving the version of you that coped. That didn’t need help. That felt strong, capable, or confident. That’s grief, not weakness.

"The essence of trauma is disconnection from the self." — Gabor Maté

Signs You Might Still Be Bracing

• You hold your breath or breathe shallowly

• Your shoulders are permanently tight

• Loud noises startle you more than before

• You feel emotionally fragile but hide it well

  
  

These are not just emotional patterns. They’re somatic cues — your body’s language of overwhelm.

What Actually Helps

This is where deeper recovery begins. It’s not about pushing through. It’s about feeling safe enough to stop pushing at all.

Try:

• Breath-led grounding (low belly breathing, humming)

• Movement that calms (walking, dancing, slow stretching)

• Somatic narrative coaching — tapping into how the body tells the story of what you’ve been through

• Naming what you feel, not judging it

• Interoception practices: noticing what’s happening inside without rushing to fix it

Even a few minutes a day can rewire how your nervous system responds.

"You’re not broken. You’re just still bracing."

Let This Be a Starting Point

You don’t need to explain why you’re still feeling it.You just need someone who gets that recovery doesn’t stop at “You’re fine now.”

🎧 Begin here: [4-Minute Reset: A Calm Return to Yourself]

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Real healing begins when we stop pushing and start listening — to the nervous system, the grief, and what matters now.

A Final Word

If you’ve been signed off but still don’t feel right, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure it out alone either. This is what I do.

Therapeutic coaching for the space between “you’re better now” and feeling better for real.

Physios, menopause specialists, and recovery professionals — if you’re supporting women post-treatment or post-injury and know they need something more, I’d love to connect.

You don’t need fixing. You need support that actually fits.